Step 9: Making Amends — Not for Them, but for Freedom

Step 9 is often the step people fear the most…

but it’s also one of the most freeing.

Making amends is more than saying “I’m sorry.”

It’s about taking responsibility for our part, making things right where possible, and choosing peace over pride.

When unresolved resentment or guilt lingers, it doesn’t just affect our relationships —it quietly fuels compulsive overeating.

That’s why Step 9 matters so much.

✔️ We don’t blame

✔️ We don’t justify

✔️ We don’t reopen wounds

✔️ We seek peace — with God, others, and ourselves

Sometimes amends are spoken.

Sometimes they’re living amends — choosing different actions going forward.

And sometimes wisdom means not making direct contact if it would cause harm.

This step isn’t about perfection.

It’s about courage, humility, and freedom.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” — Matthew 5:9

If food has been your escape, or just a habit you are not sure how it even happened, Step 9 helps remove what’s been quietly driving that need to escape in the first place.

You don’t do this alone.

Prayer, guidance, and trusted support matter here.

Freedom is on the other side of honesty.

If you want to walk through Step 9 — and all 12 steps — with biblical guidance, reflection questions, and practical support, my book 12 Steps to Recovery From Overeating is available:

➡️ On Amazon (print): https://a.co/d/b59l7hh 

➡️ As a PDF on my website: https://www.reshapeandrecover.com/product-page/12-steps-to-recovery-ebook 

This isn’t a diet.

It’s a Christ-centered path to lasting freedom with food.