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“If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love.” John 15:10 (ESV) Jesus connects obedience with abiding in God's love. He isn’t saying we earn His love by doing the right things. Instead, obedience keeps us close to Him. When we follow His guidance, we remain in the place where His love, peace, and wisdom shape our lives. Jesus also reminds us that He lived the same way with the Father—walking in obe

I used to think Step 11 meant I needed a long, quiet time with God every day… or I wasn’t doing it right. And honestly, that just made me feel like I was failing. But what I’ve learned is this: For me, Step 11 looks like short prayers throughout the day. Not long, perfect prayers. Just simple, honest ones in the moment. “God, help me right now.” “Lord, give me wisdom.” “Please take this craving.” And those small prayers? They do more than I expected. They keep my mind on God…

Maybe you are like me. You have a good idea what is healthy and what isn’t. We know a piece of fruit is better than a candy bar. And yet for years, I reached for the candy. I wondered what was wrong with me. I pretty much knew it was an addiction, but to say I was an addict was something I was not ready to do. I went to my first Overeaters Anonymous meeting in March 2005, and it took me a year to go back. I wasn’t ready. But after seeing that meeting and living life on my own

If you’ve been stuck in the same cycle with your eating… you’re not alone. For many people, the struggle isn’t knowing what to do—it’s staying consistent. I lived there for years—starting over, trying harder, and ending up in the same place. What finally changed wasn’t more willpower. It was learning a different way—one that included structure, support, and relying on God instead of myself. Basically, the point is… if willpower alone hasn’t worked, it may not be the right too

Most people think their problem is just food. But it usually isn’t. You can know how to eat healthy… You can even do really well for a few days or weeks… And then something happens. Stress. Emotions. A long day. Feeling tired or overwhelmed. And suddenly, you’re right back in the same pattern. That’s not because you don’t have enough willpower. It’s because this goes deeper than food. I struggled with this too and for me, I had to learn: • How to pause instead of react • How

Have you ever felt like you’re trying to do better… but keep falling back into the same patterns? That can be discouraging. But Hosea 6:3 gives us a different focus: “Let us know; let us press on to know the Lord; his going out is sure as the dawn; he will come to us as the showers, as the spring rains that water the earth.” (ESV) Basically, the point is… keep going—but not just to fix yourself. Keep going to know the Lord. It’s easy to make our focus: Trying harder Doing bet

He is not here; He has risen, just as He said. — Matthew 28:6 I love that part… “just as He said.” Jesus didn’t just die on the cross— He rose again, just as He promised. The resurrection is proof that God is trustworthy, God is true, and He does what He says He will do. Because of that, we can trust Him— when He says He loves us, when He says He cares for us, and when He says He is working all things together for our good. Whatever you’re facing today… He is faithful. Just a

Doing a daily 10th Step is so important. It’s like doing mini 4-9 step work. We look at our day and do a quick 4th step inventory. Are we holding resentments? Do we need to confess something to our loving God and a trusted friend? What defects of character showed today, and can we ask God to take those away? Do we owe an amends – an apology that promises restoration? This work is what we do daily to stay emotionally and spiritually healthy. This is the work that leads us away

Today is Good Friday. The day we remember that Jesus willingly went to the cross… and chose death so that we could truly live. He didn’t wait for us to fix ourselves first. He didn’t ask us to try harder. He met us in our brokenness. “For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.” —Romans 5:6 For so many years, I thought I needed to “get it together” first— to fix my eating, my habits, my life. But that’s not the message of the cross. The cross

It’s hard to make wise decisions when emotions are running high. In those moments, many of us turn to food for comfort—but what if there was another way? In this video, I share a simple but powerful practice: ➡️ Pause ➡️ Pray ➡️ Let your “wise mind” take over When you take a moment to step back, process what you’re feeling, and bring it to God, you create space to respond differently instead of reacting out of emotion. Basically, the point is… You don’t have to act on every f

Most of my adult life, I struggled with overeating and weight gain. For a long time, I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t fix it. I remember being around 24, trying desperately to lose the weight after having my first child. I had gained 55 pounds—and a year later, I still couldn’t lose it. I was broke, had a young family, and felt pretty discouraged. When my mom offered to pay for a program, I jumped at the chance. And it worked… for a while. But here’s what I was really doi

If you’re like I was, you’ve tried so many diets. Some of them worked—for a while. You know what to eat. You’ve had moments where you felt motivated. But somehow, you still end up back in the same cycle of overeating. For me, the turning point wasn’t trying harder. It was: Having a simple, realistic plan Getting consistent support And learning to rely on God instead of myself This is something I see over and over again. It’s not a lack of knowledge. It’s not even a lack of de

“He who did not spare his own son, but gave him up for us all – how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” Romans 8:32 (NIV) When we think about all that God has done for us, it is easier to trust that all will work together for our ultimate good. Therefore, we can have hope in the Lord during hard times instead of turning to food. Dear Lord, thank You for all the blessings You’ve given me. I know I have been richly blessed in all things—even in the

Many people feel stuck before they even begin the 12 steps—because Step 9 feels too overwhelming. “I could never do the 12 steps… because of Step 9.” I knew someone who said that once. He wasn’t willing to make amends—especially to people who had hurt him. And honestly… I understand that. Step 9 can feel overwhelming, unfair, even impossible. ➡️ Why should I be the one to apologize? ➡️ What if they hurt me first? ➡️ What if I’m not ready? But here’s the truth: You don’t start

“I know what to do… I just can’t seem to do it.” If that thought has ever crossed your mind, you’re not alone. Most people who struggle with overeating already understand what they should be doing. They’ve read the articles, tried the plans, and made the promises. But when the moment comes—when the craving hits, when emotions rise, when life feels overwhelming—it’s not about knowledge anymore. It’s about support. It’s about having a clear path. And it’s about not trying to ca

“I messed up again… I’ll start over tomorrow.” If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. So many people feel stuck in the cycle of overeating → guilt → trying again → and falling right back into the same pattern. The problem usually isn’t that you don’t know what to eat. It’s the shame that keeps pulling you back. The thing to remember here is… It’s not about perfection. It’s about progress. And more importantly, it’s about learning how to respond differently when you strugg

“I feel like I know what to do… I just can't do it.” That’s something I hear often. And honestly—it’s something I lived. For years, I struggled with overeating, even though I understood nutrition and wanted to change. What finally made the difference wasn’t more information. It was a combination of: ✔️ A clear path ✔️ Support ✔️ Faith The thing to remember here is… This isn’t about trying harder. It’s about having the right kind of help in place. “Your word is a lamp to my fe

What if it’s not hunger but something else? Most people struggling with overeating don’t lack knowledge. They know what to eat. They’ve tried to follow through. They genuinely want to change. But something keeps pulling them back. Emotional triggers. Stress. Spiritual emptiness. And without the right kind of support, willpower alone isn’t enough. This is something I’ve seen over and over again—not just in others, but in my own journey. Basically, the point is… If we don’t add

I will listen to what God the Lord says; he promises peace to his people, his faithful servants – but let them not turn to folly. ~Psalm 85:8 (NIV) So in these verses, the Sons of Korah say they will listen to God, that He promises believers peace, and pray God’s people will not sin. When God speaks to us, He reminds us that when we follow Him, we have peace. Our prayer every day should be that we follow Him in all we do, think, and say so we will have peace and honor God. De

At some point in recovery, the focus begins to shift. We’ve spent time looking honestly at ourselves. Now we begin to look at our relationships. This can feel uncomfortable. We may start to see ways we’ve hurt others — or ways we’ve been hurt — and it can bring up guilt, regret, or even resistance. But this step isn’t about rushing to fix everything. It’s about becoming willing. Willing to see things more clearly. Willing to take responsibility for our part. Willing to let Go