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If you’re like I was, you’ve tried so many diets. Some of them worked—for a while. You know what to eat. You’ve had moments where you felt motivated. But somehow, you still end up back in the same cycle of overeating. For me, the turning point wasn’t trying harder. It was: Having a simple, realistic plan Getting consistent support And learning to rely on God instead of myself This is something I see over and over again. It’s not a lack of knowledge. It’s not even a lack of de

“He who did not spare his own son, but gave him up for us all – how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” Romans 8:32 (NIV) When we think about all that God has done for us, it is easier to trust that all will work together for our ultimate good. Therefore, we can have hope in the Lord during hard times instead of turning to food. Dear Lord, thank You for all the blessings You’ve given me. I know I have been richly blessed in all things—even in the

Many people feel stuck before they even begin the 12 steps—because Step 9 feels too overwhelming. “I could never do the 12 steps… because of Step 9.” I knew someone who said that once. He wasn’t willing to make amends—especially to people who had hurt him. And honestly… I understand that. Step 9 can feel overwhelming, unfair, even impossible. ➡️ Why should I be the one to apologize? ➡️ What if they hurt me first? ➡️ What if I’m not ready? But here’s the truth: You don’t start

“I know what to do… I just can’t seem to do it.” If that thought has ever crossed your mind, you’re not alone. Most people who struggle with overeating already understand what they should be doing. They’ve read the articles, tried the plans, and made the promises. But when the moment comes—when the craving hits, when emotions rise, when life feels overwhelming—it’s not about knowledge anymore. It’s about support. It’s about having a clear path. And it’s about not trying to ca

“I messed up again… I’ll start over tomorrow.” If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. So many people feel stuck in the cycle of overeating → guilt → trying again → and falling right back into the same pattern. The problem usually isn’t that you don’t know what to eat. It’s the shame that keeps pulling you back. The thing to remember here is… It’s not about perfection. It’s about progress. And more importantly, it’s about learning how to respond differently when you strugg

“I feel like I know what to do… I just can't do it.” That’s something I hear often. And honestly—it’s something I lived. For years, I struggled with overeating, even though I understood nutrition and wanted to change. What finally made the difference wasn’t more information. It was a combination of: ✔️ A clear path ✔️ Support ✔️ Faith The thing to remember here is… This isn’t about trying harder. It’s about having the right kind of help in place. “Your word is a lamp to my fe

What if it’s not hunger but something else? Most people struggling with overeating don’t lack knowledge. They know what to eat. They’ve tried to follow through. They genuinely want to change. But something keeps pulling them back. Emotional triggers. Stress. Spiritual emptiness. And without the right kind of support, willpower alone isn’t enough. This is something I’ve seen over and over again—not just in others, but in my own journey. Basically, the point is… If we don’t add

I will listen to what God the Lord says; he promises peace to his people, his faithful servants – but let them not turn to folly. ~Psalm 85:8 (NIV) So in these verses, the Sons of Korah say they will listen to God, that He promises believers peace, and pray God’s people will not sin. When God speaks to us, He reminds us that when we follow Him, we have peace. Our prayer every day should be that we follow Him in all we do, think, and say so we will have peace and honor God. De

At some point in recovery, the focus begins to shift. We’ve spent time looking honestly at ourselves. Now we begin to look at our relationships. This can feel uncomfortable. We may start to see ways we’ve hurt others — or ways we’ve been hurt — and it can bring up guilt, regret, or even resistance. But this step isn’t about rushing to fix everything. It’s about becoming willing. Willing to see things more clearly. Willing to take responsibility for our part. Willing to let Go

Many people who struggle with overeating aren’t lacking effort. They’ve tried. They’ve started over more times than they can count. They genuinely want things to be different. But the same patterns keep showing up. That can be incredibly discouraging. What I’ve seen — both in my own journey and in the people we work with — is that real change often doesn’t come from trying harder. It comes from understanding what’s underneath the behavior and having the right kind of support

Going on vacation doesn’t have to mean everything falls apart with your eating. This is a picture Tony and I took on our way to a short trip in Cottonwood, Arizona, and we’re having such a good time already. (And yes… I borrowed his hat because the wind was not cooperating with my hair 😊) But here’s what’s different: We came with a plan. Not a restrictive plan. Not a stressful plan. Just a simple, intentional one. We brought some healthy food with us. We’re choosing wisely a

Most people who struggle with overeating know what they should eat. What they believe they lack is the willpower to follow through. They understand nutrition. They’ve tried countless diets. They genuinely want to change. Yet the cycle continues. That’s because overeating is often not just about food. For many people, it becomes a way to cope with stress, loneliness, anxiety, or emotional pain. When those pressures build, food offers quick relief — even when someone sincerely

Can you recover from overeating without working the 12 Steps? Someone recently asked me that… and it made me pause. Because the honest answer is — maybe. I was able to lose weight before finishing all 12 Steps. But what I learned later changed everything. Weight loss and true heart healing are not the same thing. I’ve seen people lose weight… and gain it back. Not because they didn’t know what to eat — but because the deeper issues were never addressed. In this episode, Tony

Many people who struggle with overeating feel trapped in a pattern they don’t fully understand. They sincerely want to stop. They promise themselves they’ll do better next time. Yet somehow the same behaviors keep returning. Over time, this cycle can bring a lot of frustration, shame, and discouragement. For many people, overeating isn’t simply about food or lack of discipline. It often follows a predictable cycle driven by stress, cravings, temporary relief, and the emotiona

For our heart is glad in him, because we trust in his holy name. Let your steadfast love, O Lord, be upon us, even as we hope in you. Psalm 33:21–22 (NIV) When we trust God, our hearts can be glad — even when life is hard. Trust reminds us that God is working in ways we may not yet see. He is faithful, and His plans for us are good. Sometimes when we feel overwhelmed, lonely, or discouraged, food can look like the answer. But what we really need is God’s love and presence. Hi

Many people struggling with overeating carry a deep sense of shame. We promise ourselves we’ll do better… but when we slip again, it’s easy to start believing something is wrong with us. That shame can keep us stuck in the same cycle of trying harder, failing, and feeling worse. But Step 7 reminds us of something powerful: recovery is not about punishing ourselves. It’s about humbly turning to God and asking Him to change us. As I wrote in my book: "In Step Seven, we ask God

Recovery Rarely Happens Alone One of the quiet struggles many people carry is the belief that they should be able to fix their eating on their own. They’ve read the books. Tried the diets. Made promises to themselves more times than they can count. And when the struggle continues, shame grows. But real recovery rarely happens in isolation. In many areas of life — grief, addiction, trauma, and mental health — healing often happens best in community. Food struggles are no diffe

Many people believe that overeating is simply a willpower problem. If someone would just try harder… be more disciplined… or “get serious” about their health… they could stop. But after walking alongside people in recovery for years, I’ve seen something different. Many people struggling with food are not lacking motivation. They are often: • Carrying stress, grief, or loneliness • Using food as a coping mechanism • Feeling shame after years of failed dieting attempts By the t

One of the hardest moments in recovery is the moment after a slip. It often sounds like this: “I was doing so well… and then I messed up.” Maybe it was a stressful week. Maybe it was emotional eating after a difficult day. Maybe it was simply feeling overwhelmed and turning to food again. And suddenly it feels like all the progress is gone. So many people quietly disengage at that point. Not because they don’t care. But because starting again feels exhausting. But sustainable

“And do not seek what you are to eat and what you are to drink, nor be worried. For all the nations of the world seek after these things, and your Father knows that you need them. Instead, seek his kingdom, and these things will be added to you.” Luke 12:29-31 (NIV) We worry about so many things – including what we will eat. God’s Word tells us not to worry many times throughout the Bible. We gain nothing by worrying and only lose health physically, mentally and spiritually.